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It has been 1 month since I decided to deactivate my Facebook account, and I can confirm that this was a perspicacious decision. Leaving the virtual world, my brain has been more active and opened. I used to waste all of my treasure time on surfing Facebook, pressing like and commenting, even when I was queuing or waiting for my coffee. That is the reason why my mind as well as my creativity at that time was limited. Kraus (2012) explained that people need to have gap time to develop their creativity, and social media has taken all of my gap time. Without Facebook, I can spend more time chatting face to face with my friends, discussing with my parents and feel like I am truly living in real world.
So, my blog entry today will discuss about the issue that people will feel more depressive while excessively engaging with social media, such as Facebook. I will concentrate on two main factors leading to people’s depression caused by Facebook, including the relationship harm and lonely mood.
The first one is that social network site as Facebook can seriously cause harm to people’s relationships. There is a fact that Facebook is the primary reason for the increase in divorce in USA, which accounts for more than 80% of divorce case relating to this social network site (Zimmerman 2014). The figure showed that 14% of 24,000 married couples who used social network feel unsatisfied in their marital relationship (McCurley 2013). Facebook is a place that can reduce the mutual trust of loving partners because people can easily reconnect with their ex-lovers or find new virtual friends (McCurley 2013). Additionally, there is some silly reason leading to divorce, such as just because of the man do not change the relationship status on Facebook into married (Innes 2013). Besides that, Facebook is a threat to immature couples, because there is a research showing that people in a romantic relationship tend to “monitor their partner’s Facebook activity more stringently”, which can put the relationship status under high pressure and also people’s jealousy (Rivas 2013). Facebook negatively influences not only romantic relationships, but also friends relationships. Excessively engaging with Facebook such as high frequency of posting status or uploading your self-portrait photo (more than 3 times a day) can seriously irritate people, and also lose acquaintance (Miller 2013). Therefore, people’s relationship can be influenced badly if they do not control their Facebook’ behaviour and lead to pity break up.
Secondly, people can be lost in the wide virtual world like Facebook, which can lead to the depression feeling. Facebook-ers’s psychological dysfunction such as depression and loneliness is increasing because of the decrease in the sense of belonging to the real world (Song et. al. 2014). Moreover, Facebook can increase the friendship network but decrease the quality of the mutual relationship, therefore people can feel lonely because they find it difficult to have a real friend to share everything online (Morrison & Gore 2010).
In conclusion, Facebook is a good friend in helping people to connect with each other, but it is bad at maintaining and developing people’s relationship. People should use the social media in a reasonable way to control their behaviour online and also to avoid pity mistakes that make them regret in the future.
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