My virtual world drives me mad!

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It has been 1 month since I decided to deactivate my Facebook account, and I can confirm that this was a perspicacious decision. Leaving the virtual world, my brain has been more active and opened. I used to waste all of my treasure time on surfing Facebook, pressing like and commenting, even when I was queuing or waiting for my coffee. That is the reason why my mind as well as my creativity at that time was limited. Kraus (2012) explained that people need to have gap time to develop their creativity, and social media has taken all of my gap time. Without Facebook, I can spend more time chatting face to face with my friends, discussing with my parents and feel like I am truly living in real world.

 

Figure 1: Your Facebook friends don’t care

Figure 1: Your Facebook friends don’t care

So, my blog entry today will discuss about the issue that people will feel more depressive while excessively engaging with social media, such as Facebook.   I will concentrate on two main factors leading to people’s depression caused by Facebook, including the relationship harm and lonely mood.

 

Figure 2: Facebook and divorce

Figure 2: Facebook and divorce

The first one is that social network site as Facebook can seriously cause harm to people’s relationships. There is a fact that Facebook is the primary reason for the increase in divorce in USA, which accounts for more than 80% of divorce case relating to this social network site (Zimmerman 2014). The figure showed that 14% of 24,000 married couples who used social network feel unsatisfied in their marital relationship (McCurley 2013). Facebook is a place that can reduce the mutual trust of loving partners because people can easily reconnect with their ex-lovers or find new virtual friends (McCurley 2013). Additionally, there is some silly reason leading to divorce, such as just because of the man do not change the relationship status on Facebook into married (Innes 2013). Besides that, Facebook is a threat to immature couples, because there is a research showing that people in a romantic relationship tend to “monitor their partner’s Facebook activity more stringently”, which can put the relationship status under high pressure and also people’s jealousy (Rivas 2013). Facebook negatively influences not only romantic relationships, but also friends relationships. Excessively engaging with Facebook such as high frequency of posting status or uploading your self-portrait photo (more than 3 times a day) can seriously irritate people, and also lose acquaintance (Miller 2013). Therefore, people’s relationship can be influenced badly if they do not control their Facebook’ behaviour and lead to pity break up. 

 

Figure 3: Facebook makes people lonely

Figure 3: Facebook makes people lonely

Secondly, people can be lost in the wide virtual world like Facebook, which can lead to the depression feeling. Facebook-ers’s psychological dysfunction such as depression and loneliness is increasing because of the decrease in the sense of belonging to the real world (Song et. al. 2014). Moreover, Facebook can increase the friendship network but decrease the quality of the mutual relationship, therefore people can feel lonely because they find it difficult to have a real friend to share everything online (Morrison & Gore 2010).

In conclusion, Facebook is a good friend in helping people to connect with each other, but it is bad at maintaining and developing people’s relationship. People should use the social media in a reasonable way to control their behaviour online and also to avoid pity mistakes that make them regret in the future.

The Innovation of loneliness

The Innovation of loneliness

References

Bercovici, J 2012, “Is Facebook making you lonely? Don’t be stupid”, image, Forbes, 4th December, viewed 5 August 2014, < http://www.forbes.com/sites/jeffbercovici/2012/04/12/is-facebook-making-you-lonely-dont-be-stupid/

Hurka-Robles 2013, “How to stop spotify posts on Facebook?”, image, laptopmag, 17th April, viewed 5 August 2014, <http://blog.laptopmag.com/spotify-privacy-settings-facebook>.

Innes, E 2013, “How Facebook can ruin your relationship: ‘Site induced jealousy’ increases risk of divorce and break-up”, Daily Mail, 7th June, viewed 5th August 2014, <http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2337555/How-Facebook-ruin-relationship-Site-induced-jealousy-increases-risk-divorce-break-up.html#ixzz39beGJBOz >.

Kraus, J 2012, “We’re creating a culture of distraction”, 25 May, JoeKraus, viewed 15 July 2014, < http://joekraus.com/were-creating-a-culture-of-distraction&gt;.

McCurley, J 2013, “How social media can harm your relationships”, Something More, 5th October, viewed 5 August 2014, < http://trysomethingmore.com/how-social-media-can-harm-your-relationships/&gt;

Miller, T 2013, “Too many selfies on Facebook can damage relationships: study”, New York Daily News, 12 August, viewed 5 August 2014, < http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/selfies-damage-relationships-study-article-1.1424830&gt;. 

Morrison, CM & Gore, H 2010, “The relationship between Excessive Internet Use and Depression: A Questionnaire-Based Study of 1,319 Young People and Adults”, Psychopathology, vol. 43, no. 2, viewed 5 august 2014.

Moutushi 2013, “Facebook and Divorce”, image, News priyo,  2nd October, viewed 5 August 2014, < http://news.priyo.com/2013/10/02/facebook-divorce-86984.html>.

Rivas, A 2013, “Too Much Facebook Can Cause Relationships to End in Cheating, Breakups or Divorce”, Medical Daily, 6th June, viewed 5 August 2014, < http://www.medicaldaily.com/too-much-facebook-can-cause-relationships-end-cheating-breakups-or-divorce-246598&gt;.

Song, H et. al. 2014, “Does Facebook make you lonely? A meta analysis”, Computers in Human Behavior, vol. 36, pp. 446-452, viewed 5 August 2014.

Zimmerman, LP 2014, “Facebook has Become a Leading Cause in Divorce Cases”, HG Legal Resources, viewed 5 August 2014, < http://www.hg.org/article.asp?id=27803&gt;.

 

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Facebook creates the erosion of the “real beauty” in Vietnam

Recently, the press coverage continuously publishes news relating to a case of finding the corpse of a victim who were killed by the cosmetic surgeon Nguyen Manh Tuong nearly one year ago. The ill-fated victim named Le Thi Thanh Huyen took her last breath after the anesthetic procedure in an unqualified plastic surgery centre of Dr. Tuong, who thrown her death body in Hong river to destroy the traces of crime. However, this surgery accident may not have strong influence in warning Vietnamese people about the danger of plastic surgery. And Facebook is one of the powerful influential factors in both changing people’s perception about the real beauty and motivating them to create the artificial beauty.

 

 

Periods of cosmetic surgery in 10 years

Figure 1: Periods of cosmetic surgery in 10 years

There are several reasons to condemn Facebook as a “killer tool” in the digital age. “Killer” is quite exaggerated, but I can still observe the serious negative outcome that Facebook brings to human’s life. This blog will focus on three main reasons that Facebook is motivating people to become more beautiful at all costs without caring about the health issue and even life perishability. These following reasons are people’s narcissism, the virtual lifestyle and the Facebook-ers’ jealousness.

 

 

Selfie

Figure 2: Selfie

 

 

How to accurate measure narcissism

Figure 3: How to accurate measure narcissism

Firstly, narcissism is defined as the excessive interest in oneself, which is frequently expressed on narcissists’ personal Facebook page via posting their own photos or status. Narcissists highly engaged with social network sites, especially Facebook because it allowed users to promote themselves in an easy and instant way. Moreover, narcissism is not only an “unrealistic self-concept”, but also uninteresting for other people to maintain sustainable interpersonal relationship. So, the question is why narcissism is a factor that affects people’s decision in making cosmetic surgery. As defining above, people following narcissism usually put themselves at the top, including the top of beauty, career and social relationship. Therefore, their desire about a perfect beauty is intense, and cosmetic surgery is considered as an instant and efficient solution. Additionally, the existence of Facebook is boosting their decision because this social network site is an ideal place to promote their beauty as well as receiving people’s criticism. Besides, narcissists are described as people without ability to “tolerate criticism”, so perfect beauty is the goal that they want to achieve.

 

 

Figure 4: Facebook and virtual lifestyle

Figure 4: Facebook and virtual lifestyle

Secondly, Facebook is now changing people’s lifestyle, from realistic lifestyle to more virtual lifestyle, which also a factor influencing the increase in the number of cosmetic surgery in Vietnam. In the young generation, a person can bear a title of “hot bot-hot girl” based on the high number of followers and “like” photos on Facebook. While surfing the Internet, I used to find an article about the tips of gaining many like for photos on Facebook such as uploading in rush hour from 7pm to 10pm or trying to comment a lot to make the photos appearing on others’ news feed. Due to the thirst for receiving people’s extolment and becoming famous in virtual world, people are now seeking more approach to be more beautiful, and cosmetic surgery is not an exception.

 

People's Jealousy

Figure 5: People’s Jealousy

Thirdly, people often post their most beautiful or happy moment on Facebook, and by observing these frequently can lead to psychological jealous. And the jealousy is a strong factor that motivates people to be more beautiful and more famous.

 

In conclusion, there is a close relationship between three reasons which are narcissism, virtual lifestyle and people’s jealousy in motivating people to be more beautiful at all costs.

 

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References

 

 

Technologies kill people’s relationship in real life

I was sitting in the canteen of RMIT University waiting for my friends; therefore, I had chance to observe the familiar scene of what the young generation is doing. I was not surprised, but still felt depressed when I saw not only one table, but many tables sat together with the smartphone on their hand surfing Internet. No talking, no inquiring. Observing this condition has raised a concern in my mind, which is that whether the Internet has distanced the relationship between people and people. Combining with other negative consequences created by the Internet, the issue that Internet and digital devices cause more harm to human lives needs to be clarified.

Figure 1: Smart phone breaks down face to face communication

Figure 1: Smart phone breaks down face to face communication

I cannot deny the huge advantage that Digital Revolution has brought to human beings, such as the convenience, timesaving, profit-making or broaden connection in cyber world. However, will the negative aspect outgrow the positive side? Before answering the question, it is necessary to point out the negative influence of the Internet and the digital technologies on people’s behavior and lifestyle.

Firstly, distraction is the primary concern of what the digital revolution has caused to human lives. Kraus (2012) maintained that the development of Internet and technologies has created and motivated the culture of distraction, which negatively impacted on face-to-face connection, people’s creativity, and thinking process. People increasingly preferred involving in online activities than spending time chatting or caring with their families or friends in real life. Technologies have distanced people from people by creating the distraction during the face-to-face conversation such as checking email, surfing Facebook or texting. Additionally, Kraus (2012) also acknowledged that people’s creativity was negatively impacted by the digital revolution because creativity required gap time, which was the short time waiting for someone or time standing in a line. Nevertheless, the gap time for creative idea flashing across one’s mind in present day has been filled by online activities on smart phone. Beside that, I am a victim of Internet interruption in thinking process. Every time I am running with the deadline for my assignment, the notification of my Facebook and email account always distract me when I mostly concentrate on my work. As a result, my thinking process is also stuck and required a long time to gain the concentration back. Therefore, each time when I do the assignment, I always try my best to get as far away from the social network as possible.

Secondly, digital revolution has created a strong addiction for Internet users. The issue can be in different level focusing mainly in game online and social networks addiction. The Internet addiction can cause serious harm to not only mental and physical health, but also people lifestyle or manner lost. In Vietnam, there was a pitiful criminal case relating to game addiction, which was that two siblings killed their grandmother to get money playing game online. Another case, a South Korean father has left his son starving to death because he is busy to play game online.

Figure 2: Death of computer addiction

Figure 2: Death of computer addiction

Thirdly, cyber world is a place where any information can be spread out easily and constantly. This can be a threat to social, economical or political issue. For example, while the sovereignty between Vietnam and China was so strained, a reactionary Facebook page named “Viet Tan” was spread out bad information in order to calling Vietnamese people demolishing foreign-owned factories. This action has seriously influenced the political and economic situation in Vietnam because it not only created chance for China to wage war with Vietnam, but also affected the foreigner’ invested capital.

Figure 3: Viet Tan Facebook Page

Figure 3: Viet Tan Facebook Page

Figure 4: The chaos of Vietnamese workers’ demolish

Figure 4: The chaos of Vietnamese workers’ demolish


 

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